This is late, but I wanted to respond myself.
Jim Raynor wrote:
Anakin fulfilled that prophecy by helping to wipe out both orders, something that certainly wasn't in the Jedi's best interests.
Anakin turned his back on his destiny when he wiped out the Jedi. As others have gone over in this thread, "balance" is not equal parts Dark Side and everything else. The Dark Side is viewed as an undesirable that must be wiped out. It's pretty clear, just from the fact that the Jedi think that two Sith is too many.
That doesn't change the fact that Anakin spent no more than days with Qui Gonn while he spent years paired with Obi Wan. Remember that Qui Gon did forsee that Obi Wan would become a Jedi, and was confident enough in him as of TPM that I don't think Qui Gon would have wanted anyone else.
It doesn't have to change that fact. Old Obi-Wan had what, a day with Luke as well? Again, movies try to get their themes across, and this is done with limited running time.
But is Obi Wan wrong? Rarely. I understand your points but I think you don't hold Anakin nearly responsible enough for his actions.
I'm not making excuses for Anakin. He was a twisted individual who made very bad choices. Obi-Wan's still not portrayed as the same kind of mentor as Qui-Gon though. Look at the way Obi-Wan criticizes Anakin outside the nightclub, for losing his lightsaber during the chase. What does Obi-Wan do in his own fights later in the movie? Lose his lightsaber. It's easier to talk.
Again, was that doctrine wrong? Yoda was trying to comfort Anakin, and offer advice that had served well for centuries. It's not Yoda's fault that Anakin's selfishness had taken root and that he failed to see the wisdom being offered. Yoda's advice isn't entirely unlike advice you could give to anyone else. For all Yoda knew Anakin was referring to Obi Wan or another Jedi who was at risk of dying in battle.
Most people would try to say something beyond "let go." Of course Yoda's not entirely wrong, and he has understandable reasons for his position. However he was still detached and not the most helpful.
I've never seen "celibacy" printed anywhere but i'm not looking to start that debate. There are two very good reasons for Jedi not to have families though. The first being that the family members of Jedi could become targets easily enough, which brings on a laundry list of problems. The second being that the tangible nature of the dark side creates a big risk for Jedi and having a family invites this. The massacres perpetrated by Luke's student Dolph are evidence enough of this.
Again the Jedi have understandable reasons, but they went too far and were portrayed as too set in their ways.
This part. I don't think Vader's parenting in this situation is relevant because he didn't even know he had a son until after Luke had already blown up the first Death Star. By then Luke is an adult and calling "VadeR" an abusive dad is oversimplifying what Vader's goals for Luke really were. One could argue that Vader never even really truly saw Luke as a son until Return of the Jedi, and then was redeemed.
He's still Luke's father, with a name derived from the word "father." He's just another piece supporting the saga's message about overcoming the mistakes of the previous generation.
I would agree that the Jedi Order had placed a lot of importance on detachment and that said detachment was not always to their advantage. But I also feel that their intentions and motivations behind doing so are perfectly reasonable, given the (and yes I know i'm repeating myself) tangible nature of the Dark Side and the risk of the consequences of a Jedi giving in to those temptations.
I think everyone agrees on this.