Schuyler Colfax wrote:
If SC was supposedly going to stop posting here for a few months, then what's the deal with the E3 thread in GnC? The little cunt can't even stop himself for a few days.
That would have been after my fate were decided. If this is my last day on the board, then I want to enjoy it. Is that a bad thing?
Why? Is the board that important?
SC, that's unhealthy. When I realized that I cared that much about a message board and a newsgroup, I stopped posting.
Not for a month, not even for six months, but for three years. I cam back an older, I think wiser, person. In that time, I was able to move from being barely able to finish classes in a community college, to holding down a full-time job, while being able to go back to school.
Even worse than the very real addiction I had been showing - while I rarely posted, I checked the board compulsively - I had actually regressed, socially, because I had begun to define myself based on the internet.
At the time, my reaction to a ban poll would have been very much the same as your reaction here, and frankly, the emotional results would have been pretty bad.
OK, story time is over. Here is my advice:
1. Stop posting, not after the poll, but now.
2. Don't even visit the board for a while, at least long enough to develop an identity on your own, without the board.
3. Get involved with something in real life. This could be anything from joining a bridge club to getting a job, but it should be something outside of academics at school, and something at least slightly outside your comfort zone.
4. When the time is right, and it probably won't be for a long while, come back. If you were in fact banned, send an email to Mike, requesting a reconsideration. I know that has been done before.
4a. As a sub point to the above, if you have been banned, and that bothers you, it is still too soon to come back.
Also, about posting, my general rule now is to compose a post in a text editor, save it, do something else, and only post it if it seems important a few minutes later.
There are obviously some exceptions to the above rule, but not many. EDIT: As you can see, at least in my case, that rule doesn't let me eliminate typos.