Is there any practical reason at all to ban gay marriage? I can't think of any. I just e-mailed my parents this article, with the following message:
So perhaps it might change their views slightly. But my father is adamant that only a man and woman can properly raise a child.IRG CommandoJoe wrote:According to this article, the only problems the children encounter are from homophobic assholes, similar to how any arbitrary group of people suffers from prejudice. And yet no one ever took away the right to have children from other groups based on the fact their children would be socially ostracized.
Also, I read my father this excerpt from this child development psychology textbook:
Laura E. Berk wrote:Gay and Lesbian Families
Several million American gay men and lesbians are parents, most through heterosexual marriages that ended in divorce, a few through adoption or reproductive technologies (Bigner, 2000). In the past, laws assuming that homosexuals could not be adequate parents led those who divorced a heterosexual partner to lose custody of their children. Today, several states hold that sexual orientation is irrelevant to custody. In others, fierce prejudice against homosexual parents still prevails.
Research on homosexual parents and children is limited and based on small samples. Nevertheless, findings consistently indicate that gay and lesbian parents are as committed to and effective at child rearing as are heterosexual parents (Patterson, 2001). Some evidence suggests that gay fathers are more consistent in setting limits and more responsive to their children's needs than are heterosexual fathers, perhaps because gay men's less traditional gender identity fosters involvement with children (Bigner & Jacobsen, 1989). In lesbian families, quality of mother-child interaction is as positive as in heterosexual families. And children of lesbian mothers regard their mother's partner as very much a parent (Brewaeys et al., 1997). Whether born to or adopted by their parents or conceived through donor insemination, children in homosexual families seem as well adjusted as their children. Also, the large majority are heterosexual (Allen & Burrell, 1996; Chan, Raboy, & Patterson, 1998; Golombok & Tasker, 1996).
He claims that the phrase "large majority" means a significant portion turn out to be gay (a warped misinterpretation, I think). He also claims it omits that the children are screwed up bcause their parents were of the same sex, ignoring the "well adjusted" part. He disbelieves it. I asked why and he said because a child needs to have male and female roles to model themselves after and they would face social ostracization from their peers. I think this is just wrong. Maybe they face ostracization, but no more than any other group that's prejudiced against. We don't ban atheists, blacks, Jews, Muslims, etc. from marrying and having children, do we?
Also, strangely enough, instead of giving me clear anectdotal evidence of gay parents screwing up their children, he says that he knows a bunch of single parents who have screwed up kids, and that the same principals apply because gay parents are a single sex. I tried in vain arguing that it's a totally different situation, that same sex parents could share different roles of child-raising, but it seems as though his views on gender roles are extremely rigid.
I really don't know how to approach this any better. Any suggestions?